23 Juli 2008

How To Know if You've Married Your Soul Mate

By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com



What are the chances of marrying a soul mate? How do you know if you have married your soul mate? What if you realize you didn't marry your soul mate? Do you have to marry a soul mate to have a successful marriage?

Maybe you've married your soul mate and just didn't realize it. Check out this list of soul mate partnership characteristics.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: varies

Here's How:


1. In order to recognize your soul mate, you must first know yourself.

2. Soul mate marriages can be well balanced, strong, and positive. There should be a lack of intimidation, manipulation, or abuse in a marriage of soul mates. A soul mate should make you feel safe.

3. A relationship with a soul mate is a natural fit and usually feels like it is meant to be. Even so, every marriage, even a marriage of soul mates, takes the two spouses giving priority to their marriage relationship.

4. A soul mate partner often feels like a mirror to their spouse. Though this does sound a bit boring.

5. A marriage to a soul mate is filled with honesty and support. But then, so are successful marriages of couples who don't believe they are soul mates.

6. There is a sense of familiarity and mutuality in a marriage to a soul mate as well as in long lasting marriages.

7. Soul mate marriages can be healthy, passionate and harmonious. Soul mate partners can easily get a lot done by working together.

8. Couples who are soul mates often take joy in watching the growth of one another.

9. A soul mate will accept who you are, will bring out the best in you, challenge you, and be your best friend. A soul mate will not require you to change. Hopefully, this is true of your spouse -- soul mate or not.

10. Soul mates relish small moments together and cherish their commitment to their marriage. Again -- shouldn't this be a way happy married couples live?

11. Take a Jungian personality type quiz to compare your personality styles.

Tips:

1. Be wary of looking for a mate who is ideal and who feels and thinks exactly the way you do. No one can live up to that kind of standard. Soul mates don't agree on everything.

2. Don't use the soul mate concept as an excuse to walk away from your commitment to your marriage.

3. Remember you can still have difficult times even when married to your soul mate. Romance is a gamble. Marriage takes attentiveness.

4. Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.

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